Life is not a fairy tale


Every girl has a dream of a prince who comes in a white horse to marry her and they live a happily ever after. Now a question arise, does it show the whole picture of real life or harsh reality?

"If Cinderella's shoe fit perfectly, then why did it fall off?"

We all know Cindrella's story, about her evil step-mother and step-sisters, her fairy godmother, her glass shoes and how did she get saved by the prince who fell in love with her at first glance. But , we did not realize while reading that how did she get forgot by prince because he was mesmerized by her beauty and he never showed interest to get to know her but to marry the beautiful girl of that kingdom. We all know how does beauty fade away, but wises do make us mortal. Relationship never ends with an ending like happily ever after but it starts after that happily ever after moment. If the perfectly fitted shoe that was only made for Cindrella can fall off  then how people can imagine their life without any ups and downs.

"It’s not until you lose everything that you truly appreciate everything."

Beauty and the Beast, a renowned love story, where Belle broke the spell, made beast believe in love and helped him to turn into a kind person. All the glitters of this story has concealed the dark side of toxic relationship ideology. The Beast held Belle captive, and overtime her love changed the Beast. The mentality of that love can change a beast into a human. Also in this story , they did not highlight the intelligence but her character got the fulfillment by bringing out the inner kindness of the Beast. This romantic story's this concealed side give people toxic ideology in disguise and give them unrealistic expectations.

"Unrealistic expectations bring disaster to life."

The little mermaid, a tragic love story, is a perfect example of how unrealistic depiction of love. As, Ariel's unrealistic expectations of love encouraged her to do sacrifice. Her unrealistic delusion created a will in her to undergo immense suffering that revealed weakness of her character.

"How did it come to my realization?"

Since my childhood, I had a dream to have a fairy tale life and to have a love life like this. I always wanted a prince to enter into my life magically after that we will fall in love and he will fight for me to the world to me his. I tried to find a man who would love me over the moon and obsess with me. He would be mad about me and for him I can make any kind of sacrifice, even it costs my career. But over the time I have realized how the relationship is not a picture of a cloudy dream because the experience of my relationship crashed all the dreams I had since childhood .The dream of an understanding partner but all of them were interested in my outer beauty not my inner beauty. The ideology I had, is gone, but I have realistic and practical expectations can prevent me from hurting myself.



Ref.
1.Skurat, K. (2023).Signs of Effects of Toxic Relationships.https://calmerry.com/blog/relationships/signs-and-effects-of-toxic-relationships/
2.Love Pain royalty.https://www.shutterstock.com/search/love-pain

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